DOWRY = Death Of Wedding Responsible You

Dowry is most talked about issue of the society. It is a blot on our face, but every day news item. It is a social malady and denied vehemently. With open eyes we see the cases of dowry in our own family and don’t stop. It continues. It develops. Like a continuous fire in the family, relatives, neighbors and friends. People are obsessed with it. Yes, truly. It is a typical Hindu custom that bride’s parents give an amount of money, jewelry, plots, etc to groom on the marriage ceremony, unfortunately dowry is even creeping into Muslim marriage. It is rising among Muslims. Islam, the religion of Muslims does not permit Dowry. It does permit Maher the reverse of the dowry. 

So it is unusual for a Muslim boy to ask for it. He has to pay a certain amount as Mahr to his wife. There is no tradition or custom that the bride should get something with her. However, gifts are allowed, not dowry. If the parents of the bride and family are giving something as a “gift” on marriage to the daughter, it is accepted. The marriage alliance with Muslims is permitted only when the guy is able to take up the responsibility of the wife as a partner. She is not a “source of income” in the form of a dowry. Muslims should comprehend this. A research has revealed that an estimated one million women suffered & destroyed every year by this Dowry system. Till today the birth of a female child is still viewed as a curse in developing countries. As soon as a daughter is born, the family and the father start calculating the huge financial burden that lies in front of them. They almost forgot that Allah has promised us Paradise for bringing up our daughter the way we take care of our son.

There are many unpleasant customs in our country. ‘Dowry’ system is the worst among those. Dowry is an evil system and has brought out as a curse. It creates so many problems. It weakens the family relations and it spreads into the Muslim society as a virus. It has lowered the status of women in the society. It is a curse and must be removed.Islam doesn’t allow ‘Dowry’, so a Muslim father does not have to bother for it. Our religion Islam does not put any financial burden on the father of the female child. ‘Bridal-Gift’ or ‘Dower’ is a token of love and assurance to the wife at the time of her marriage. The Quran says: “And give the women (whom you marry) their dower (bridal gift) happily” (4:4)

It can be easily inferred that this tradition is very shameful for our society. We should prove hard to get rid of this system. There are some laws to take it away. But we cannot use them properly. Islam can be the perfect guidance and law for us. If we consider the Holy Quran and the teachings of Hadith, this curse can be removed permanently.